The first kingdom in the Four Kingdoms of Consciousness is “victim consciousness” which I discussed briefly in last month’s newsletter. This month, I will explain a bit about the next kingdom—the kingdom of “Solo Creation.”

This is the Kingdom of Consciousness that most people work throughout their lifetime to immerse themselves. Most self-help books and other modalities of self-improvement focus almost entirely on moving from victim to self-empowerment. “Take the bull by the horns and take action in your life and change it!” There certainly is nothing wrong with this attitude, and many people feel it is perfectly fine to stop here if you can move enough of your life out of victim and into the “take action” mode. Again, our culture finds this to be the “end goal” and most focus in the world around us is to stop being a victim and start taking control of our lives.

Since that is the topic of this month’s article; I will stick with that and proceed no further (until next month when we discuss “The Kingdom of Co-Creation”!)

The last article about the Four Kingdoms of Consciousness made a few suggestions as to how to release yourself from the grips of victimhood. But what does it mean to no longer be a victim, and what do we do after moving from victimhood to a more self-empowering position? First of all, we have to adopt a “I can do anything” attitude. If there are things you are certain you “cannot” do, or so you believe, then you let them go. I will not dare suggest what is “not possible” for you, because in this world of doing there really is not anything you cannot acquire. However, that being said, we live in a pretty powerful cultural belief system that does seem to  have boundaries. Most of us are pretty certain we cannot be an Olympic champion after we have passed age 80 or so—our physical bodies may not be up to the task. But metaphysically that simply is not the case. I will not go too far down this rabbit hole as I don’t want to lose you. The point is, we will not be able to accomplish things that are beyond what we call our “sphere of availability.” This is an imaginary bubble that all the things we are pretty certain is within our reach is placed within, and all that we are pretty certain are out of our reach we place on the outside of the bubble. The trick is not to pull things INTO our bubble, but to expand our bubble to encompass more things we want.

If we are deeply within victim consciousness, we will have a very tiny bubble, which encases very little. As we go through our victim feedback loop our bubble may even become smaller, knocking out even more. To expand the bubble, we must believe more in our abilities, and work on our victim consciousness from the inside out, not so much from the outside in. Remember, if we are ensconced in victimhood, it will only get worse, and will seem as if we are being externally punished by some unknown power. It seems that way, but simply is not true. The demon is within, not without, and as “bad things” happen to us, and our bubble gets smaller, things that were available to us yesterday may not be available to us today. It is all up to what we believe.

It sounds cliché I know, but this idea has been around for a long time, and although very difficult to prove on this metaphysical level, there is a lot of evidence it works. And if you are not a woo woo type, you can still work on this from a more objective perspective and you will see results.

The steps to increase your “sphere of availability” is to:

  1. When confronted with a failure, accept it, and move on. Accept that all failures are a result of “past” attitude. It will take a while to release all the negative energy you have been spitting out for so many years. If you have a failure, chalk it up to your “past self”—move on.
  2. Develop as many forms of “behavioral mastery”. Choose, for an activity something that you are certain you are good at, and practice that thing, to prove to yourself again and again that you ARE successful at SOMETHING. Add other things to your list of skills. Create hobbies whose only metric of success is in what you KNOW. Nothing can stop you from learning something. Add skills to your list, take up hobbies, sports, music, anything that you can work on slowly to convince yourself you can be good at something.
  3. Journal—track your successes, wallow in them, think about them over and over again. Pat yourself on the back whenever you think of something you have accomplished.
  4. Keep accepting failures. It will take time. Move your thoughts immediately to something you have succeeded in, no matter how small.
  5. Make goals, some easy, some not so easy. Write down in your journal a goal to accomplish in a week, another in a month, then a year, then 3 years, then 5, then 10, then 20. KNOW that you can change these goals whenever you want and add more to them whenever you want. Congratulate yourself when you have achieved one of them.
  6. Reward yourself for accomplishments, large and small.
  7. According to the rules of “consciousness” anything that you can believe in at least 50% will come true. Write the dreams down, anything written down has a 80% greater chance of happening.
  8. Keep most of your goals to yourself. If you want to share, share only people who will encourage you and not tell you you can’t do what you want to do. No matter how outlandish, if you think of it, and are excited about the possibility of it, then it can happen. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise (including yourself.)

This is a little introduction to more “positive thinking.” There is of course more, but this will get you started on your journey from victim consciousness to the next kingdom of “Solo Creation” where everything is “done BY you.”