Books 2017-09-21T08:29:45+00:00

Books

Pick a category below for a selection of books that may interest you. If I have recommended a certain title to you in session you will find it under its general heading (i.e., Male Psychology for books about men). Click on the book image to go to the Amazon.ca description page of the book to read more and see book reviews, click on the “Buy from Amazon.ca” to put the book in your shopping cart at Amazon.ca.

Relationships

The New Rules of Marriage

by Terry Real

Advance praise for The New Rules of Marriage

“Terry Real helps overturn old-fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere. This is a wonderful, joyful, and highly useful book.”
–Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Crazy Busy

“Falling in love is easy, staying in love is another matter. Couples yearning for more closeness are truly in uncharted territory . . . until now, that is. This book offers amazing new insights about men and women and what it takes to make relationships work in our ever-changing culture.”
–Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, author of Divorce Busting

“If you’re tired of the same old dance, get ready to learn a few new steps–real steps–the ones that will make a difference in your life and the lives of those you love.”
–Cheryl Richardson, author of Life Makeovers

“Terrence Real offers a brilliant, winning strategy for achieving the full-tilt, authentic, exhilarating connection both women and men crave. Real’s revolutionary program is sure to lead them to it–with the dignity, fairness, and humor that characterizes his work.”
–Dalma Heyn, author of Drama Kings

“An amazing guide to developing powerful relational skills. It is served up with great wit and a keen sense of humor–a great read.”
–Pia Mellody, author of Facing Love Addiction and The Intimacy Factor

“Groundbreaking, insightful, funny, this book brings readers the inside scoop. Sharing the deep and simple truths, it offers us practical wisdom everybody can use to make love work.”
–Bell Hooks, author of All About Love: New Visions

Getting the Love You Want

by  Harville Hendrix

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. The 20th anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to this groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix’s updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples’ daily interactions, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., originated Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Together they have more than thirty years’ experience as educators and therapists and their work has been translated into more than 50 languages, with Imago practiced by two thousand therapists worldwide. Harville and Helen have six children and live in New York and New Mexico.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

by  John Gottman and Nan Silver

“An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent — and long-lasting — marriage.”
— Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence

“Gottman stays refreshingly down to earth, rather than on Mars and Venus.”
— Bill Marvel and Geoffrey Norman, American Way

“Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he’s got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic.”
— Newsweek

“Twenty-five years of landmark marital research.”
— USA Today

“Offers something every relationship can benefit from.”
— Seattle Post-Intelligencer

“Astonishing new research!”
— Woman’s World

“Debunks many myths about divorce . . . reveals surprising facts . . . enlightening!”
— Amazon.com

I Don’t Want to Talk About It

by  Terrence Real

When Terrence Real was studying to be a therapist, he accepted the notion that women suffered depression at rates several times that of men. Now he believes that conventional wisdom is wrong, that there has been a great cultural cover-up of depression in men. Real is convinced of the existence of a mental illness that is passed from fathers to sons in the form of rage, workaholism, distanced relationships from loved ones, and self-destructive behaviors ranging from stupid choices at work and in love to drug and alcohol abuse. Men reading I Don’t Want to Talk About It will probably recognize themselves in every chapter, while women will recognize their partners–and, of course, both sexes will see their fathers in a new light.

The 5 Love Languages

by  Gary Chapman

“In this unabridged recording of material the author has been perfecting for years, he says that people experience love most strongly through one of five love languages–quality time, words of encouragement, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Chapman’s thoughtful, youthful sounding voice offers these insights not as the Five Commandments of Marriage, but as suggestions he hopes will be helpful. He provides humble examples from his counseling practice, which illuminate his ideas and give a human, down-to-earth quality to the lesson. Without making light of the work a marriage requires, he’ll convince most listeners that with just a little planning and effort they can make a good marriage great and a broken partnership truly satisfying again.”
T.W. 2006 Audie Award Winner © AudioFile Portland, Maine

After the Affair

by  Janis A. Spring

After the Affair teaches partners how to heal themselves and grow from the shattering crisis of an infidelity. Drawing on thirty-five years as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Spring offers a series of original and proven strategies that address such questions as: * Why did it happen? * Once love and trust are gone, can we ever get them back? * Can I—should I—recommit when I feel so ambivalent? * How do we become sexually intimate again? * Is forgiveness possible? * What constitutes an affair in cyberspace?

Depression

Mind Over Mood

by Dennis Greenberger PhD (Author), Christine A. Padesky PhD (Author), Aaron T. Beck MD (Foreword)

Discover simple yet powerful steps you can take to overcome emotional distress–and feel happier, calmer, and more confident. This life-changing book has already helped more than 1,000,000 readers use cognitive-behavioral therapy–one of today’s most effective forms of psychotherapy–to conquer depression, anxiety, panic attacks, anger, guilt, shame, low self-esteem, eating disorders, substance abuse, and relationship problems. Revised and expanded to reflect significant scientific developments of the past 20 years, the second edition contains numerous new features: expanded content on anxiety; chapters on setting personal goals and maintaining progress; happiness rating scales; gratitude journals; innovative exercises focused on mindfulness, acceptance, and forgiveness; 25 new worksheets; and much more.
Mind Over Mood will help you:
*Learn proven, powerful, practical strategies to transform your life.
*Follow step-by-step plans to overcome depression, anxiety, anger, guilt, and shame.
*Set doable personal goals and track your progress (you can photocopy the worksheets from the book or download and print additional copies).
*Practice your new skills until they become second nature.

Cited as “The Most Influential Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Publication” by the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies and included in the UK National Health Service Bibliotherapy Program.

Winner (Second Place)–American Journal of Nursing Book of the Year Award, Consumer Health Category

See also the Spanish-language edition: El control de tu estado de ánimo, Segunda edición.

The Noonday Demon

by Andrew Solomon (Author)

Andrew Solomon’s National Book Award-winning, bestselling, and transformative masterpiece on depression—“the book for a generation, elegantly written, meticulously researched, empathetic, and enlightening” (Time)—now with a major new chapter covering recently introduced and novel treatments, suicide and anti-depressants, pregnancy and depression, and much more.

The Noonday Demon examines depression in personal, cultural, and scientific terms. Drawing on his own struggles with the illness and interviews with fellow sufferers, doctors and scientists, policy makers and politicians, drug designers, and philosophers, Andrew Solomon reveals the subtle complexities and sheer agony of the disease as well as the reasons for hope. He confronts the challenge of defining the illness and describes the vast range of available medications and treatments, and the impact the malady has on various demographic populations—around the world and throughout history. He also explores the thorny patch of moral and ethical questions posed by biological explanations for mental illness. With uncommon humanity, candor, wit and erudition, award-winning author Solomon takes readers on a journey of incomparable range and resonance into the most pervasive of family secrets. His contribution to our understanding not only of mental illness but also of the human condition is truly stunning.

Anxiety

Mind Over Mood

by Dennis Greenberger PhD (Author), Christine A. Padesky PhD (Author), Aaron T. Beck MD (Foreword)

Discover simple yet powerful steps you can take to overcome emotional distress–and feel happier, calmer, and more confident. This life-changing book has already helped more than 1,000,000 readers use cognitive-behavioral therapy–one of today’s most effective forms of psychotherapy–to conquer depression, anxiety, panic attacks, anger, guilt, shame, low self-esteem, eating disorders, substance abuse, and relationship problems. Revised and expanded to reflect significant scientific developments of the past 20 years, the second edition contains numerous new features: expanded content on anxiety; chapters on setting personal goals and maintaining progress; happiness rating scales; gratitude journals; innovative exercises focused on mindfulness, acceptance, and forgiveness; 25 new worksheets; and much more.
Mind Over Mood will help you:
*Learn proven, powerful, practical strategies to transform your life.
*Follow step-by-step plans to overcome depression, anxiety, anger, guilt, and shame.
*Set doable personal goals and track your progress (you can photocopy the worksheets from the book or download and print additional copies).
*Practice your new skills until they become second nature.

Cited as “The Most Influential Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Publication” by the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies and included in the UK National Health Service Bibliotherapy Program.

Winner (Second Place)–American Journal of Nursing Book of the Year Award, Consumer Health Category

See also the Spanish-language edition: El control de tu estado de ánimo, Segunda edición.

Addictions

When the Body Says No

by Gabor Maté

In this accessible and groundbreaking book–filled with the moving stories of real people–medical doctor and bestselling author Gabor Maté shows that emotion and psychological stress play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness, including breast cancer, prostate cancer, multiple sclerosis and many others, even Alzheimer’s disease.

When the Body Says No is an impressive contribution to research on the physiological connection between life’s stresses and emotions and the body systems governing nerves, immune apparatus and hormones. With great compassion and erudition, Gabor Maté demystifies medical science and, as he did in Scattered Minds, invites us all to be our own health advocates.

Grief

A Grief Observed

by C.S. Lewis

A Grief Observed comprises the reflections of the great scholar and Christian on the death of his wife after only a few short years of marriage. Painfully honest in its dissection of his thoughts and feelings, this is a book that details his paralysing grief, bewilderment and sense of loss in simple and moving prose.

Invaluable as an insight into the grieving process just as much as it is as an exploration of religious doubt,  A Grief Observed will continue to offer its consoling insights to a huge range of readers, as it has for over fifty years.

‘A classic of the genre, a literary answer to the pain of loss.’ Robert McCrum

On Death and Dying

by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Ten years after Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s death, a commemorative edition with a new introduction and updated resources section of her beloved groundbreaking classic on the five stages of grief.

One of the most important psychological studies of the late twentieth century, On Death and Dying grew out of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s famous interdisciplinary seminar on death, life, and transition. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kübler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations, she gives readers a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient’s family, bringing hope to all who are involved.

This edition includes an elegant, enlightening introduction by Dr. Ira Byock, a prominent palliative care physican and the author of Dying Well.

Male Psychology

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

by  Robert Moore and Doug Gillette

The corporate “yes man,” the wife-beater, the hot-shot male junior executive and the emotionally distant father are all boys pretending to be men, observe the authors of this liberating guide to self-transformation. Writing within a Jungian framework, they perceive symptoms of “Boycaps per book psychology” all around us–in men’s abusive behaviors, passivity and inability to act creatively. To help males become more nurturing and mature, Moore and Gillette identify four archetypes of masculine energies from myth and literature: the Lover, brimming with vitality and sensitivity; the Magician, guider of the processes of inner and outer transformation; the selfless and wise King identified with Adam or primordial man; and the Warrior, whose energies often go awry in destructive activity. Dream analysis, meditation, Jungian “active imagination” and ritual processes are among the tools set forth in a clear, concise map to territories of masculine selfhood. Moore is a professor of psychology and religion at Chicago’s Theological Seminary, Gillette is cofounder of the Chicago-based Institute for World Spirituality. Illustrated.

The Prince and the King

by Michael Gurian

Western culture, contends Gurian ( The Odyssey of Telemachus ) discourages fathers from nurturing their children and freely expressing paternal love. As a result, sons often feel alienated from their fathers and, in turn, from themselves; this, in Gurian’s view, negatively affects their relationships with their lovers, spouses, children and co-workers. In this addition to the growing body of “men’s movement” literature, he uses myths and Jungian archetypes to explore the father-son legacy, advising adult sons how to heal the filial relationship’s wounds by embarking on a “heroic quest” with the aid of such tools as journal keeping, letter writing, visualization, meditation, focused recall and confrontation. By finally forgiving their fathers, he argues, men can transform themselves from insecure, immature “princes” into strong yet nurturing “kings.” The symbolism and numerous references to legend and psychological theory may put some readers off this warm, sensitive and insightful book.

Check out Amazon third party sellers, or check www.abebooks.com for used copies of this book.

The Invisible Partners

by Michael Gurian

Modern society lacks the rituals available in primitive cultures, claims Gurian, whereby a boy separates from his mother as he moves into manhood. As a result, many modern men do not adequately separate from their mothers. Gurian discusses the troubled relationships that result. He points out that the father’s role in this separation is crucial; from him the boy learns what it is to be a man. If the father is absent or disengaged, the boy may be hurt. In unhappy families, mothers may give the wrong messages to their sons. In the second half of the book, Gurian offers a workbook-like exercise designed to take the reader on a journey to heal his relationship with his mother. Enlivened by examples and easy to read, this book makes a contribution to the literature on male personal development. For large popular psychology collections.

Iron John

by Robert Bly

In this timeless and deeply learned classic, poet and translator Robert Bly offers nothing less than a new vision of what it means to be a man.

Bly’s vision is based on his ongoing work with men, as well as on reflections on his own life. He addresses the devastating effects of remote fathers and mourns the disappearance of male initiation rites in our culture. Finding rich meaning in ancient stories and legends, Bly uses the Grimm fairy tale “Iron John”—in which a mentor or “Wild Man” guides a young man through eight stages of male growth—to remind us of ways of knowing long forgotten, images of deep and vigorous masculinity centered in feeling and protective of the young.

At once down-to-earth and elevated, combining the grandeur of myth with the practical and often painful lessons of our own histories, Iron John is an astonishing work that will continue to guide and inspire men—and women—for years to come.

Under Saturn’s Shadow

by James Hollis

Saturn was the Roman god who ate his childern to stop them from usurping his power. Men have been psychologically and spiritually wounded by this legacy. Hollis offers a rich perspective on the secrets men carry in their hearts.

Fire in the Belly

by Sam Keen

The new male that Keen envisions is neither devoted careerist nor self-absorbed New Age guy nor cool, detached “post-modern man.” He is husbandman and steward of the earth–strong, vulnerable, with a capacity for moral outrage, empathy and wonder–whose right livelihood is consonant with ecological awareness. Consulting editor of Psychology Today , Keen ( Faces of the Enemy ) argues that men must define their identities by severing themselves from women as approval-giving mother figures and as the ancient Goddess who continues to exert power within the male psyche’s hidden recesses. Going beyond the modern rites of manhood–alienating work, war, performance-oriented sex–the new male “psychonaut” brings forth meaning by undertaking “a spiritual journey into the self.” Men–and women–will be enriched by the uncommon insights in Keen’s speculative primer.

No More Mister Nice Guy

by Robert A. Glover

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It’s no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

Female Psychology

Women Who Love Too Much

by Robin Norwood

“An extraordinary self-help book that reads like a page-turning thriller….This beautifully written, intelligent book can help women break the pattern of foolish love.” — Los Angeles Times

“If you constantly find yourself loving men you want to change, Women Who Love Too Much is for you.” — Houston Chronicle

“A message so compelling that those readers who see themselves in the book may well be inspired to follow [Norwood’s] 10-point recovery plan…. Norwood conveys the authority and sensitivity of a sister sufferer.” — Philadelphia Inquirer

“Even if you’re not a woman who loves too much, the book is a reminder that we indeed make our lives and that love is supposed to be a happy event.” — Boston Herald

“How to distinguish between unwise loving and healthy loving is what Norwood sets out to do…. Every woman, no matter how healthy her relationships with men may be, may see a bit of herself in this book.” — Star Publications

Goddesses in Everywoman

by Jean Shinoda Bolen

Jean Shinoda Bolen’s celebrated work of female psychology that uses seven archetypical goddesses to describing behavior patterns and personality traits, as relevant and timeless today as when it was first published thirty years ago.

Myths are fascinating stories that become even more intriguing when we realize that they can reveal intimate truths about ourselves and others. Jean Shinoda Bolen brings the Greek pantheon to life as our inner archetypes and applies the power of myth to our personal lives. Once we understand the natural progression from myth to archetype to personal psychology, and realize that positive gifts and negative tendencies are qualities associated with a particular goddess within, we gain powerful insights.

Depending on which goddess is more active within, one woman might be more committed to achieving professional success, while another more fulfilled as a wife and mother. From the autonomous Artemis and the cool Athena to the nurturing Demeter and the creative Aphrodite, she teaches women how to decide which to cultivate and which to overcome, and how to tap the power of these enduring archetypes to become a better “heroine” in their own life story.

Maiden, Mother, Crone

by D. J. Conway

The Triple Goddess is with every one of us each day of our lives. In our inner journeys toward spiritual evolution, each woman and man goes through the stages of Maiden (infant to puberty), Mother (adult and parent), and Crone (aging elder).

Maiden, Mother, Crone is a guide to the myths and interpretations of the Great Goddess archetype and her three faces-so that we may better understand and

In Search of Aphrodite

by Chelsea Wakefield

What does it mean to be “in search of Aphrodite?” For most women, sex is complex, and more than a juxtaposition of body parts. Women sense the possibility of depth, meaning, even transcendence, but in a somatically disconnected, sexually superficial world, it can be difficult for a woman to discover her inner fire, define who she is sexually, and confidently communicate this to her partner.
Part philosophy, part treatment manual, In Search of Aphrodite addresses women’s sexual problems from an inspiring, creative perspective, integrating Jungian Psychology and sex therapy. Readers will deepen their understanding of the sexual psyche and how this realm impacts women’s lives, as well as what the author calls the journey of Sexual IndividuationTM.
Chelsea Wakefield covers a variety of topics such as healing ancient wounds, resolving inner conflicts, exploring sexual essence, identity, scripts, primal instinct, desire, fantasy, longing, and more. She offers pathways to sexual enrichment and improved communication with a partner. Sexual archetypes are introduced and organized around the author’s Sexual Essence Wheel. Gatekeepers and Eros-inhibiting archetypes are described, along with what to do when treatment stalls.
This book is appropriate for:
• Clinicians who are nervous about venturing into conversations about women’s sexuality
• Clinicians who are comfortable with sexual topics and are curious about new interventions
• Sex therapists who want a treatment model that acknowledges the multidimensional aspects of sexuality
• Jungian analysts and Jungian oriented practitioners who want helpful tools for addressing sexual issues as an invitation into individuation
• Pastoral counselors and spiritual guidance practitioners who seek to heal souls wounded by sexual trauma and sex-negative teachings
• Women who want to explore their sexual psyche and define their sexual essence, and men who wish to better understand the sexual depths of women.
Rich with case histories and an “Inner Cast of Characters” that clients can explore, this resource will help women discover joyful embodiment, innate eroticism, and sexual pleasure!

The Enlightened Stepmother

by  Perdita K. NorwoodTeri Wingender

Becoming a stepmother is a life-altering event in any woman’s life. The issues are extraordinarily complex and women are overwhelmingly unprepared. Yet concerns usually focus on the effect remarriage has on the children. The Enlightened Stepmother approaches the subject from a totally new perspective — that of the stepmother. Based on information — sometimes controversial — from stepmoms of all ages, occupations and lifestyles, who know from experience what works, what doesn’t and why —

  • What you need to know about your new family before you become part of it.
  • How to get off to the right start. (It’s hard to change a relationship once you’ve taken the path of least resistance.)
  • How to prevent, rather than cure, the stepmom’s classic pitfalls.
  • What you need to recognize about your relationship with your husband’s children.
  • How to handle relationships between your kids and his.
  • Why you need to give your marriage top priority.
  • How to make sure others are aware that this is your life too.
  • Why you need to develop a working relationship with your stepchildren’s mother.
  • How to understand the inevitable stages every stepfamily passes through.
  • How to overcome the guilt of not loving — or even liking — your stepchildren.
  • How to avoid feeling guilty in circumstances over which you have no control.
  • Why a successful stepfamily is as unique as every stepmom.

Mothers Who Can’t Love

by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn

In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.

Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse.

Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.

Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.

Childhood Trauma

Toxic Parents

by  Susan Forward

When you were a child…

• Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless?
• Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
• Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
• Were you often frightened of your parents?
• Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you’re an adult…

• Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
• Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
• Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money?
• Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough for your parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents — and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

Drama of the Gifted Child

by  Alice Miller

Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound book has provided thousands of readers with an answer—and has helped them to apply it to their own lives.Far too many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents’ expectations and win their ”love.” Alice Miller writes, ”When I used the word ’gifted’ in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb… Without this ’gift’ offered us by nature, we would not have survived.” But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough

by  Alice Miller

The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women’s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.

Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride’s step-by-step program will enable you to:

(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life

(2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage

(3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse

Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.

Children of the Self Absorbed

by Nina W. Brown

Being a parent is usually all about giving of yourself to foster your child’s growth and development. But what happens when this isn’t the case? Some parents dismiss the needs of their children, asserting their own instead, demanding attention and reassurance from even very young children. This may especially be the case when a parent has narcissistic tendencies or narcissistic personality disorder. From the author of Working with the Self-Absorbed and Loving the Self-Absorbed, this major revision of a self-help classic offers a step-by-step approach to resolving conflict and building a meaningful relationship with a narcissistic parent.

Children of the Self-Absorbed offers clear definitions of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder to help you identify the extent of your parent’s problem. You’ll learn the different types of destructive narcissism and how to recognize their effects on relationships. With the aid of proven techniques, you’ll discover that you’re not helpless against your parent’s behavior and that you needn’t consider giving up on the relationship. Instead, realistic strategies and steps are suggested for learning to set mutually agreed upon behaviors that can help you fulfill your needs and expectations.

You’re Not Crazy, It’s Your Mother

by Nina W. Brown

Understanding and healing for daughters of narcissistic mothers. (It’s for sons too*)

“You’re not broken and in need of fixing. You’re wounded and in need of healing”.

Do you find yourself emotionally bruised, upset and confused after being in contact with your mother? Do you end up doubting yourself – even feeling crazy – as she remembers incidents totally differently to how you remember them and denies other events even happened at all, until you begin to doubt your own perceptions?

Do you somehow feel you’re not a real person in her company? Does it seem that she gets angry or upset when good things happen to you, and gets happy and energised when bad things happen to you? But maybe that’s your imagination, you tell yourself, because of course your own mother isn’t going to be sad when you succeed and glad when you suffer, right? And so maybe you feel like a bad daughter for even doubting her.

Around and around go your feelings and emotions and half-formed thoughts, till you think you must truly be crazy.

If all this is true for you, you are far from alone. Millions of women all over the world have experienced the same crazy-making hall-of-mirrors. And this is why: their mother – like yours, possibly – has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Realising about NPD explains the whole crazy-making dynamic, and this realisation is so freeing and life-changing. It can be a tough realisation too, however, and this book aims to support you on the tough bits of that journey.

For the price of 10 minutes of therapy, this book explores how narcissists behave, how they treat their daughters, and that behaviour’s impact on those daughters’ lives. it also gives tools and resources to help you heal from the toxic and abusive relationship and to start living the life you always deserved to live.

*Sons of narcissistic mothers – you’ll still get huge value out of this book. I wrote it from the vantage point of being a daughter but many sons have written to me to tell them it told their story too.

The Emotionally Absent Mother

by Jasmin Lee Cori

Was your mother preoccupied, distant, or even demeaning? Have you struggled with relationships—or with your own self-worth? Often, the grown children of emotionally absent mothers can’t quite put a finger on what’s missing from their lives. The children of abusive mothers, by contrast, may recognize the abuse—but overlook its lasting, harmful effects.

Psychotherapist Jasmin Lee Cori has helped thousands of men and women heal the hidden wounds left by every kind of undermothering. In this second edition of her pioneering book, with compassion for mother and child alike, she explains:

  • Possible reasons your mother was distracted or hurtful—and what she was unable to give
  • The lasting impact of childhood emotional neglect and abuse
  • How to find the child inside you and fill the “mother gap” through reflections and exercises
  • How to secure a happier future for yourself (and perhaps for your children)

Mothers Who Can’t Love

by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier Glynn

In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.

Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse.

Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.

Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.

OCD, BiPolar, Borderline Personality Disorder

The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide

by Alexander L. Chapman (Author), Kim L. Gratz (Author), Perry D Hoffman (Foreword)

If you or someone you love is struggling with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you need up-to-date, accurate, and accessible information on the problems you’re facing and where you can turn for help. But where do you look? Much of the professional literature on BPD is too technical and confusing to be of much help. And searching the Internet for accurate information can be treacherous, with some sites providing useful information and others giving dangerous advice and misinformation. Ifyou’re living with BPD, this compassionate book offers what you really need: an easy-to-follow road map to guide you through this disorder and its treatment.

This book provides answers to many of the questions you might have about BPD: What is BPD? How long does it last? What other problems co-occur with BPD? Overviews of what we currently know about BPD make up the first section of the book. Later chapters cover several common treatment approaches to BPD: DBT, mentalization-based treatment (MBT), and medication treatments. In the last sections of the book, you’ll learn a range of useful coping skills that can help you manage your emotions, deal with suicidal thoughts, and cope with some of the most distressing symptoms of BPD.

This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit – an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

by Matthew McKay (Author), Jeffrey Wood (Author), Jeffrey Brantley (Author)

A Clear and Effective Approach to Learning DBT Skills

First developed for treating borderline personality disorder, dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) has proven effective as treatment for a range of other mental health problems, especially for those characterized by overwhelming emotions. Research shows that DBT can improve your ability to handle distress without losing control and acting destructively. In order to make use of these techniques, you need to build skills in four key areas-distress tolerance, mindfulness, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness.

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook , a collaborative effort from three esteemed authors, offers straightforward, step-by-step exercises for learning these concepts and putting them to work for real and lasting change. Start by working on the introductory exercises and, after making progress, move on to the advanced-skills chapters. Whether you are a professional or a general reader, whether you use this book to support work done in therapy or as the basis for self-help, you’ll benefit from this clear and practical guide to better managing your emotions.

This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit – an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives.

Find more help online at elearning.newharbinger.com. Self-Help Therapy offers web-based treatment for borderline personality disorder (BPD) and emotion dysregulation based on the book The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook . Other modules in Self-Help Therapy offer treatment for stress, anxiety, depression, and anger.

Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life

by Scott A. Spradlin (Author)

There’s a wide spectrum of emotional sensitivity, and it varies from one person to another. Some people oscillate between over-control and over-expression. Others stuff or hide their emotions for months before they finally blow their stack and ‘stand up for them selves’ through overly aggressive behaviors.

People diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) for example, are are often emotionally sensitive, and may have problems with emotion dysregulation, but they aren’t the only ones who have trouble with managing emotions-we all do. There have probably been times in each of our lives when we can remember not being in our ‘right mind.’

When we are regularly undone by our emotions, we become victims of damaged relationships, trapped circumstances, self-sabotage, and illness. Don’t Let Your Emotions Run Your Life offers help to all of us who want to gain the upper hand on our feelings and our lives. Even high reactors, people disposed to experiencing strong, even overwhelming emotions on a regular basis, will find its strategies easy to use and effective at managing frequent emotional flare-ups.

This book develops proven dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) techniques into worksheets, exercises, and assessments that show you how to pay attention to emotions when they arise, assess blocks to controlling them, and overcome them to eliminate overpowering feelings. Learn what emotional triggers exist in your environment and become less judgmental about yourself when you do experience a surge. Avoid or reduce the distress that strong emotions cause you. This workbook teaches you to reduce the impact of painful feelings and increase the effects of positive ones so that you can tolerate life’s ongoing stresses and achieve a sense of calm coexistence with your emotions.

The Bipolar II Disorder Workbook

by Stephanie McMurrich Roberts (Author), Louisa Grandin Sylvia (Author), Noreen A. Reilly-Harrington (Author)

Most people have heard of bipolar disorder, a mental health condition that is marked by manic episodes and periods of intense depression. Bipolar II disorder differs from bipolar I in that sufferers may never experience a full manic episode, although they may experience periods of high energy and impulsiveness (hypomania), as well as depression and anxiety. If you have been diagnosed with bipolar II, or even if you think that you may have this disorder, you may be frightened by the highsand lows of your intense emotions. Fortunately, there are proven-effective treatments that can help you find a sense of calm and peace of mind.

Written by an extremely accomplished team of bipolar experts, The Bipolar II Disorder Workbook is designed to help you manage the recurring depression, hypomania, and anxiety that can arise as a result of your condition. The convenient workbook format combines evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), and other mindfulness-based exercises to help you manage your emotions, track your progress, and ultimately live a happy and more productive life.

This is the first self-help workbook available specifically for individuals diagnosed with bipolar II disorder.

Past Life Regression

Return to Life

by Jim Tucker, MD

A first-person account of Jim B. Tucker’s experiences with a number of extraordinary children with memories of past lives, New York Times bestseller Return to Life expands on the international work started by his University of Virginia colleague Ian Stevenson. Tucker’s work, lauded by the likes of parapsychologist Carol Bowman and Deepak Chopra, and described by some as quantum physics, focuses mostly on American cases, presenting each family’s story and describing his scientific investigation. His goal is to determine what happened – what the child has said, how the parents have reacted, whether the child’s statements match the life of a particular deceased person, and whether the child could have learned such information through normal means. Tucker has found case studies that provide persuasive evidence that some children do, in fact, possess memories of previous lives.

Among others, readers will meet a boy who describes a previous life on a small island. When Tucker takes him to that island, he finds that some details eerily match the boy’s statements and some do not. Another boy points to a photograph from the 1930s and says he used to be one of the men in it. Once the laborious efforts to identify that man are successful, many of the child’s numerous memories are found to match the details of his life. Soon after his second birthday, a third boy begins expressing memories of being a World War II pilot who is eventually identified.

Thought-provoking and captivating, Return to Life urges its readers, skeptics and supporters alike, to think about life, death, and reincarnation and to reflect about their own consciousness and spirituality.

Many Lives Many Masters

by Brian Weiss, MD

As featured on Oprah’s “Super Soul Sunday,” the classic bestseller on a true case of past-life trauma and past-life therapy from author and psychotherapist Dr. Brian Weiss—now featuring a new afterword by the author.

As a traditional psychotherapist, Dr. Brian Weiss was astonished and skeptical when one of his patients began recalling past-life traumas that seemed to hold the key to her recurring nightmares and anxiety attacks. His skepticism was eroded, however, when she began to channel messages from the “space between lives,” which contained remarkable revelations about Dr. Weiss’ family and his dead son. Using past-life therapy, he was able to cure the patient and embark on a new, more meaningful phase of his own career.

Children Who Remember Past Lives

by Ian Stevenson, MD

In this introductory book about children who seem to remember past lives, the author takes readers on a tour through the most significant cases compiled in the scientific reincarnation literature. She also gives parents practical guidelines so that they can help their child, in case they suspect he has begun to talk about a past life. Finally, the possible explanations of this phenomenon are analyzed, based on the most recent investigations dealing with the survival of consciousness after death, always using a straightforward and readable language, comprehensible for all audiences. The conclusions won’t leave you indifferent.

Other Lives, Other Selves

by Roger Woolger

A firsthand look at the psychology of reincarnation—and the dramatic power of past-life regression to radically transform and heal our lives

In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Roger J. Woolger, a graduate of Oxford University and a certified Jungian analyst, reveals an exciting psychotherapeutic technique that produces astoundingly beneficial emotional and physical results—whether you believe in reincarnation as a literal or symbolic phenomenon.

Drawing on both Western science and Eastern spirituality, Dr. Woolger shows how patients have unlocked the secrets of their innermost memories—the often self-destructive cycles that are repeated life after life—to overcome the insecurity, depression, guilt, inhibition, family dysfunction, and physical illness that they have inherited from their past lives. A lucid, compelling account of a revolutionary therapeutic technique, Other Lives, Other Selves offers an alternative path to self-improvement and self-enlightenment that addresses the whole person: mind, body, and spirit.

“An important and powerful book . . . fascinating.”—Journal of Regression Therapy

Exploring Reincarnation

by Hans TenDam

Written by one of the world’s leading authorities, Exploring Reincarnation examines the full range of explanations for past-life recall. This definitive study includes case histories from around the world, as well as intriguing theories about the relationship between body and soul—from general social beliefs about past lives to detailed questions about karma and past-life regression therapy. It is an outstanding introduction to reincarnation from a historical, scientific, and philosophical point of view.

Abundance Theory, Financial Freedom, and New Thought

The Science of Mind

by Ernest Holmes

The Science of the Mind was originally published in 1926 by the founder of the world-wide Religious Science movement. Using creative techniques and easy-to-follow guidance, Holmes takes the student step by step toward mastering the powers of the mind to find purpose in life. His explanations of how to pray and meditate, heal oneself spiritually, find self confidence and express love have helped millions change their lives for the better. The Science of Mind is one of those great spiritual classics that belongs on the bookshelf of anyone who wishes a life for themselves free of compulsion and negativity. —P. Randall Cohan

“The first forty pages or so of this voluminous work laid out the mind-over-matter philosophy of California mystic Ernest Holmes, which became a major influence on New Age spirituality. Holmes was a broad thinker and his work reflects a wide variety of influences, from Emerson to Christian Science founder Mary Baker Eddy. Holmes never became widely known but influenced many who did, such as Norman Vincent Peale. His books could be found in the libraries of George Lucas, Elvis Presley, and scholar of myth Joseph Campbell.”
–TIME magazine

Spiritual Economics

by Eric Butterworth

It’s no wonder that  The Power of Now has sold over 2 million copies worldwide and has been translated into over 30 foreign languages. Much more than simple principles and platitudes, the book takes readers on an inspiring spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self and reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light.

In the first chapter, Tolle introduces readers to enlightenment and its natural enemy, the mind. He awakens readers to their role as a creator of pain and shows them how to have a pain-free identity by living fully in the present. The journey is thrilling, and along the way, the author shows how to connect to the indestructible essence of our Being, “the eternal, ever-present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death.”

Featuring a new preface by the author, this paperback shows that only after regaining awareness of Being, liberated from Mind and intensely in the Now, is there Enlightenment.

Ask and It is Given

by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks

Ask and It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks, which presents the teachings of the nonphysical entity Abraham, will help you learn how to manifest your desires so that you’re living the joyous and fulfilling life you deserve.

As you read, you’ll come to understand how your relationships, health issues, finances, career concerns, and more are influenced by the Universal laws that govern your time/space reality – and you’ll discover powerful processes that will help you go with the positive flow of life.

It’s your birthright to live a life filled with everything that is good, and this book will show you how to make it so in every way!

Positive Psychology

Flow

by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s famous investigations of “optimal experience” have revealed that what makes an experience genuinely satisfying is a state of consciousness called flow. During flow, people typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life. In this new edition of his groundbreaking classic work, Csikszentmihalyi demonstrates the ways this positive state can be controlled, not just left to chance. Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience teaches how, by ordering the information that enters our consciousness, we can discover true happiness and greatly improve the quality of our lives.

Spiritual Growth

The Power of Now

by Eckhart Tolle

It’s no wonder that  The Power of Now has sold over 2 million copies worldwide and has been translated into over 30 foreign languages. Much more than simple principles and platitudes, the book takes readers on an inspiring spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self and reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light.

In the first chapter, Tolle introduces readers to enlightenment and its natural enemy, the mind. He awakens readers to their role as a creator of pain and shows them how to have a pain-free identity by living fully in the present. The journey is thrilling, and along the way, the author shows how to connect to the indestructible essence of our Being, “the eternal, ever-present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death.”

Featuring a new preface by the author, this paperback shows that only after regaining awareness of Being, liberated from Mind and intensely in the Now, is there Enlightenment.

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